‘You Just Gotta Laugh,’ Reports Comedian Through Blood And Tears
Aaaaaaand the Onion just told a rape joke.
The point about not telling raping jokes because they enable and preserve rape culture is to never tell them at all, not counter rape jokes by telling more rape jokes. Why is this a difficult concept?
To be honest, I think it’s possible to tell a rape joke that is both insightful, thoughtful and tragic. Comedy and satire is not always about a guffaw and I do believe that one of it’s great advantages, is that it can get people to go to a very scary place with little resistance. To consider aspects of life they wouldn’t otherwise. Rape jokes can and often do veer into incredibly distasteful territory, but what I’m saying is: they don’t have to.
Which is not to say that I think anybody needs to tolerate a rape joke. But I think calling something wrong across the board 100% of the time, does a disservice to what satire/comedy can actually accomplish.
That article is actually really disturbing and terrifying and as such shows just how awful Daniel Tosh really is. How disgusting what he was advocating was. In this case, I honestly think this piece satire does not preserve rape culture, but actually is actively battling against it.
6% of college age men, slightly over 1 in 20, will admit to raping someone in anonymous surveys, as long as the word “rape” isn’t used in the description of the act.
6% of Penny Arcade’s target demographic will admit to actually being rapists when asked.
A lot of people accuse feminists of thinking that all men are rapists. That’s not true. But do you know who think all men are rapists?
They really do. In psychological study, the profiling, the studies, it comes out again and again.
Virtually all rapists genuinely believe that all men rape, and other men just keep it hushed up better. And more, these people who really are rapists are constantly reaffirmed in their belief about the rest of mankind being rapists like them by things like rape jokes, that dismiss and normalize the idea of rape.
If one in twenty guys is a real and true rapist, and you have any amount of social activity with other guys like yourself, really cool guy, then it is almost a statistical certainty that one time hanging out with friends and their friends, playing Halo with a bunch of guys online, in a WoW guild, or elsewhere, you were talking to a rapist. Not your fault. You can’t tell a rapist apart any better than anyone else can. It’s not like they announce themselves.
But, here’s the thing. It’s very likely that in some of these interactions with these guys, at some point or another someone told a rape joke. You, decent guy that you are, understood that they didn’t mean it, and it was just a joke. And so you laughed.
And, decent guy who would never condone rape, who would step in and stop rape if he saw it, who understands that rape is awful and wrong and bad, when you laughed?
That rapist who was in the group with you, that rapist thought that you were on his side. That rapist knew that you were a rapist like him. And he felt validated, and he felt he was among his comrades.
You. The rapist’s comrade.
And if that doesn’t make you feel sick to your stomach, if that doesn’t make you want to throw up, if that doesn’t disturb you or bother you or make you feel like maybe you should at least consider not participating in that kind of humor anymore…
Well, maybe you aren’t as opposed to rapists as you claim.